This morning I read a beautiful letter written from a Dad to his six-month-old daughter. A letter filled with such profound wisdom, insight, and love it moved me to tears. I immediately contacted this Dad and he gave me permission to share it.

          Dear Daughter,

            Sometimes you’ll be too much woman. Too smart, too beautiful, too strong, too much of something that makes a man feel like less than a man. Which will make you feel like you have to be less of a woman. The biggest mistake you can make is removing jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry. I need you to believe that you do not need a smaller crown. You need a man with bigger hands.

I have not been able to get this letter out of my mind since reading it. The truth in this letter hit me hard. What experience did this young father have in his life that provided him such insight into human relationships? I wonder if he had a sister, a friend or a past girlfriend who removed their jewels and he witnessed the effect it had on them. I wonder if during his dating life he treated a woman like this and learned from his mistake. He told his daughter this was the ‘biggest mistake” she could make. How did he know this mistake was bigger than most and why don’t most women see this truth early on?

I am guilty of making this big mistake. I have removed so many jewels over the years the only thing left was a bare crown. In the relationship that led to my life UNraveling, I made the mistake this young Dad warned his daughter about. I allowed myself to be less of a woman so he could be more of a man. Wrongfully thinking it would make him see my worth only to find out I need to see my own worth first. It doesn’t make my value less important because someone doesn’t see it or honor it. But it does hurt me if I am the one removing my jewels and I don’t see my value. Don’t we realize that God crowned us with His loving glory and this is something that should be celebrated all the time?

Over 75 times the word crown is used in the Bible; you will have a crown of life, an incorruptible crown, a crown of righteousness, the crown of glory and the crown of exultation. In Revelation, the elders will have golden crowns. In Isaiah, the Lord tells us we are a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord. Don’t you dare remove any of the jewels in your crown. Celebrate that you are too much, too smart, too beautiful, too strong, these are jewels in your crown. Why is it that when a woman wins a pageant they are given a crown as a trophy? Because she is the queen, the winner. Of all the items the winner receives, the crown is the most prized possession. God has placed a crown on your head. You are a winner, you are His prized possession. Celebrate your crown as if you were a beauty pageant winner because you are.

What a wise man and a fortunate daughter to have a Dad who will pour this type of wisdom and guidance in her throughout her life. But we have a heavenly Father that has given us that same wisdom. Reread this letter only let it be a letter to you from your heavenly father whose hands are big enough to meet your every need. Now adjust that crown and be UNstoppable!